I have my own lexical prejudices. So the safest option here - the one that gives writers space to define their own comfort zones and preferences - was for me to simply include a list of words found elsewhere, and clearly define my source texts. And I've done so. [...] I actually REALLY care about everyone's opinions on these words and I think we should have more conversations about their connotations. So my end goal is to provide some crowdsourced data on how generally squicky or sexy each word is (still for free, still right here on the blog), and you can help!
Raise Your Hand (or Other Appendage) if You’re Bummed About Tumblr
As you've probably heard--since the whole internet is talking about it--Tumblr is banning adult content. They have non-consensual "revenge" porn in mind and child sexual abuse. These are obviously worthy topics of concern and should be policed. But banning all adult content that includes "real-life human genitals or female-presenting nipples, and any content — including…
The Sexy Thesaurus 3: Description Words to Use in Your Romance Novel
The third Sexy Thesaurus! Descriptive words to use while sexting, writing your romance novel, or day-dreaming.
Finding Free Steamy Reads Online
I was a die-hard Literotica user for a long, long time. I don't remember how I found it - on a clunky old laptop, sometime in my teens, when I was just getting curious about my own sexuality. It was a love-hate relationship. I've discovered now that any sources of this kind of material are going…
Coffee Shops – A Love Letter
The smell is delicious. The lighting is fantastic. They have COFFEE.
The Sexy Thesaurus 2: A List of Action Words to Use in Your Romance Novel
To date, the by-far most popular post on this blog is my "Sexy Thesaurus," a list of nouns that can be used for the sex organs. However, if you're writing, you might find yourself struggling with talking about not only their you-know-what, but also the actions they undertake! So, as a favor just for you,…
On Kindle Free Promotion and Romantica (AKA a Little Bit of Whining)
So I finally took the plunge and took Nothing Wagered, Nothing Gained's original draft off Literotica, where it had been sitting for several years. This is because, a) it wasn't very popular on LE, largely due to the fact that it's a little too tame for the general demographic there, and b) I decided to…
Romantica Ghostwriting Mills and How They’re Hurting Indie Romance Authors
UPDATE JUNE 2018 Mass production via ghostwriter has become more nefarious than ever for Kindle Self-Publishers due to "stuffing." Others have covered this better than me, but this is where a person includes multiple books (6+) within one book unit they've enrolled in Kindle Unlimited. These are pumped out en-masse by hiring ghostwriters at abominably…
The Sexy Thesaurus: A List of Words to Use in Your Romance Novel
Genitalia. Coitus. Osculation. You'd be hard-pressed to open a romance novel without finding these three things - but odds are, you won't find these words. (By the way, osculation is the scientific word for kissing. I didn't know either.) Writers and readers of romance know there are endless euphemisms for the private bits, the sexy…
5 Tiny Tips to Immensely Improve Your Writing Process
5 tiny, do-able tips that will instantly improve your ability to start AND finish your novel.
Words: A Steamy Love Affair 