I have my own lexical prejudices. So the safest option here - the one that gives writers space to define their own comfort zones and preferences - was for me to simply include a list of words found elsewhere, and clearly define my source texts. And I've done so. [...] I actually REALLY care about everyone's opinions on these words and I think we should have more conversations about their connotations. So my end goal is to provide some crowdsourced data on how generally squicky or sexy each word is (still for free, still right here on the blog), and you can help!